One of the dawning truths of living long enough is life weaves problems into every person’s life.
Paul told the Corinthians of the “light and momentary afflictions” which enter life (2 Cor. 4:17). We exaggerate most of them into overpowering and everlasting.
The great tragedy is to hide from them as a child plays hide-and-seek in plain sight.
We hide our struggles because culture instructs us in the fine art of masquerade. (It is neither masculine nor lady-like, we are told.) More importantly, we believe “we are the only one who has ever had these problems.” One person said we all are dying of terminal uniqueness.
When I reflect on my life’s struggles, you may recognize yourself.
- I have confused excellence with perfection. They are not the same. One is a principle while the second is poison.
- I have grown sullen when the world did not operate according to my rules or expectations. It doesn’t.
- I wanted people to do what I want. They don’t and they shouldn’t. Life is not about control but cooperation.
The truth is your problem may not be your fault, but it is your responsibility. Each person needs to face themselves, own their difficulties, and change what they can and let go of the rest.
Once you learn that the person in the mirror is human with the misfortunes that escort us through your years, you can live with joy.